| One of my weekend (unfinished) projects! |
I'm hearing a lot lately: "Well if I (or this person) can do it, then so can you!" This is meant as a positive message to hear, but to me it can feel negative as well. People who are older, have more kids, work a day job, have a disability, ect. are doing it, but I'm not. It makes me wonder, "What's wrong with me? Why are these people making it and I'm not?" The truth is there are a lot of reason why other people have made it big (or big-ish) and I haven't.
The problem is this is not an apples to apples comparison. It doesn't factor in so many things. Maybe these people have a more supportive family, a steady source of income, better health, more creative time, a better education, fewer hurdles that helped them succeed. Life is different for everyone Even siblings don't have the same experiences, so why would you have the exact same experiences/success story as someone else? I personally have a lot of hurdles to get over and just getting time to work on things is extremely difficult.
I probably took the long route to get to my point. You might not find the same route to success as someone else. You might have to work harder. You might have to fight for every second you have to work on things. When you can't work because of hardships, that's okay too. There is no place you are supposed to be right now. You might not be where you want to be, but it doesn't make you a failure. You do your best and I'm going to root for you! Surround yourself with positive people and and have hope you'll succeed. No pressure, though, at least not from me. If I can not put extreme pressure on you to succeed, then you can also not pressure me too. Right? 😁







